March 3, 2019
Massive Issue 01 2019

The Old V-day Dilemm

The Christmas decorations are long gone and you may think it’s all over. But then, one by one, red roses appear in the supermarket florist. Smiley wee teddy bears stare you down and the words ‘I LOVE YOU’ are unavoidable because they’re plastered EVERYWHERE. Yes, Valentine’s day is upon us.

You either love it or hate it. You’re either waiting for your overpriced flowers and letter of love, or you’re admiring
all the chocolates on sale that you’re going to snap up the next day.

Love is in the atmosphere the moment February begins.

Valentine’s Day is said to have begun in the 5th century. It only became a day to celebrate romance in the 14th century. Pope Gelasius replaced the Roman festival Lupercalia with St. Valentine’s Day.

From here the actual story of how Valentine’s day came to be as we know it today is unclear. What we do know is that by the 1700’s, commercial cards were being printed and from here we see gifts being used as symbols of love.

According to CNN, people will spend $18.6 billion this year on gifts; approximately $130 per person.

This makes it easy to be cynical, knowing that within a few days money will be blown at an alarming rate.  

Massey CoCa student, Bridget McGechan, says she thinks it’s sweet that people get tender gifts for their significant other, however has reservations about the commercial side of the day.

“I feel that gifts can be appreciated any day of the year, but this day is so hyped up as a commercial thing, a way for big businesses to make money,” she says. Many agree,
yet nearly all of us fall into the commercial trap by letting greedy corporations hijack our emotions and wallets.

This day started using words to affirm love, but now it has become a race to see who can spend the most – when the value of your gift determines how much you value love.

You can’t deny that it is somewhat magical, the way the world comes together every year to celebrate love and romance. But love comes in many forms and should not be restricted to once a year or just to romantic love.

Whether it be platonic, familial or romantic, love is more than the teddy bear on your drawer, or the card you’ll likely lose the next day. It’s about being tender with others and yourself; it’s about helping that person who dropped their can of baked beans carrying their groceries.

If you’re single, the sun will rise and set like it always does and you don’t have to spend 24 hours being miserable. Take the day to love others, and most importantly, yourself. This world puts too much pressure on people sometimes and being single is what you make of it.

If you’re in love, lap it up honey. What a wonderful day you will have sharing it with your other half! Nurture what you have, it’s special.

It may all sound cliché, but all in all, it’s one day out of 365. Just chill. We place far too much value on it going right.
If you want to enjoy it, do it. If you want to hate it, you can (but try focus on the love you have for the people in your corner).

It truly can be a good day no matter what your situation. It’s best to just embrace it and value the love you have for those who mean the most to you. Romantic love isn’t the only love to be celebrated on this day.

But like all things, if it isn’t what you hoped it would be then wake up the next day and try again. Your ability to love isn’t confined to the middle of Feb.